Drocella Mugorewera | She Speaks Podcast | June 2022 Photo Credit: Smoke Signal Media
Did you know that we do not heal physically or attract a lifestyle we deserve because of things we did not let go of in the past?
How does your status of forgiveness impact your productivity, trust in others, and prevent you to attract the skills and talents you need in your business?
The act of letting go is an act of self-care but more than that, it is one of survival. Conserving negative emotions like hatred, bitterness & resentment related to past trauma or unforgivable betrayals not only prevents you from thriving in the lifestyle you deserve, but it can actually manifest into life-threatening health issues.
A friend of mine who survived genocide against Tutsi in 1994 was diagnosed with cancer. He shared with his friend that surgery was scheduled in three weeks and his doctor ordered a lab test one week before the surgery. When he was sharing his status, he also shared how he could never forgive people who killed his relatives during the genocide. The friend empathized with him and at the end of the conversation, he told the friend with cancer that if he forgives the killers he may heal from cancer.
With resistance, the two friends separated. The sick man said to himself, “what do I have to lose? Why don’t I start the journey of forgiving the killers of my relatives and see?”. He kept it a secret until the day of his last lab test. The doctor told him the lab test results showed he had no cancer cells remaining. He said that he had to conduct another test to be sure and the second test was also negative. After the second test, the cancer-free patient called his friend and celebrated his support and encouragement. That patient became an ambassador of forgiveness by sharing his story.
There is healing power in forgiveness, and I have witnessed this in action in real life. I do not say it to please you. I lived it and I wrote about it so the entire world including, my oppressors, can know about it. In the #1 International best-selling book “Leaders with A Heart“, in which I am a co-author, I wrote a paragraph on the power of forgiveness. There is no way I could survive the trauma, anger, and frustration without forgiving the people who made me flee my country. For me forgiveness is not a choice, it is a must, and it benefits you more than your offender.